Shop-a-holic & Hoarder

EnaGonzales

Hi everyone! I kind of need help regarding my mom. My mom seem to have (from my own evaluation) a hoarding and shopping disorder! I tried (and still trying!) my best convincing her about her shopping habits, convincing her to dispose some of her items or at least when she buys something new to lessen the stuff that's turning into a big pile of garbage and she ignores me. She gives me a twisted reasoning that it's her own money and she could do whatever she wants with it. Ugh. Can anybody help me? All I want is for her to evaluate everything she wants to buy before actually purchasing it plus it's really getting messy in our house with her non-sense items! She even forgets the things she buy because she spends consistently on top of every other. I NEED HELPPPPP!****

Psycho

EnaGonzales
she got mad.
and u cant stop her.....
until she get poor.....
heh heh heh.......

SmileJewel

I think it seems to be like a habit for your mom??

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The only thing I can tell you is to keep trying and be patient. Arguing with logic does not work. she’ll either become argumentative or she’ll agree with you then ignore you .The only way you’ll get a hoarders home cleaned is to send them off on a trip for a week, then you and a bunch of friends go in and start cleaning and throwing things away or donating them to charity. https://esacare.com/top-3-benefits-of-an-emotional-support-animal-on-adhd-by-15-renowned-experts/

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When a person is depressed and has anxiety issues this happened. A person finds different activities to spend time. So it is normal. It isn't a disorder or something to feel bad about it. When our parents grow older they are more like a kid. So take them the easy way. If shes on any medication please manage them or control them. Just a suggestion please go through this article to see what can medical marijuana help you with. https://mdberry.com/medical-marijuana-treats-diseases/

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It seems like your mother is going through something which maybe you are not aware of and is trying to escape from it and venting her through this habit. It would be great if you can have a conversation with her and try to be friendly and don't confront her and try to talk about normal things. If you continue to do so and be there for her and observe her, you will most likely figure out the reasons. Also, try to get a therapist's appointment book so she would pour her heart out to the therapist. Maybe she is going through some anxiety. https://ezcareclinic.com/methods-to-cope-with-anxiety/
I hope it gets sorted soon before you she is just left with a penny. 🙂

EvaWoods

What hoarders do is usually due to a personality disorder ”obsessive-compulsive personality disorder". (OCD) And for us who do not specialize in treatment for these people, the only way to handle them is with patience. What they consider precious, might look like garbage to us, but never to them. So don't waste time trying to convince them of your own point of view. At any rate, “Hoarding” is a personality disorder that only a trained professional can treat or cure.
https://esacare.com/role-of-esa-in-treating-psychological-disorders/