Loneliness

Holly

I'm 22 and don't really have a lot of friends and this greatly affects my mental health. I don't personally think that I do anything to drive people away, I just don't connect with a lot of people of my age. I had a best friend in year 11 and since then haven't really connected with anyone. I have 1 or 2 friends but they already have other best friends and groups of friends and I always feel unimportant or second best. I always compare myself to them because they have groups of friends and I don't. I get jealous of people that are still a part of friend groups from school/college/uni because I am not. Is this my fault? Am I subconsciously driving people away somehow? Does anyone have any tips of how to solve this? I have a lot of personal interests but don't know how to find connections through my interests. I always wonder if its my fault and I wonder if there's any psychology behind the way I'm thinking/behaving and if I'm actually the cause. Any help would be really appreciated

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I can totally understand and have gone through the same in my high-school. I was one of the most bullied kids and nobody wanted to be friends with me. It had the same effect on my mental health as well. I was never the favorite kid of any of the teachers either. They used to praise everyone else but me. I suffered from anxiety and chronic depression too. My parents helped me a lot and we tried every possible way to get healed and cured. I would suggest the same to you that please seek medical help and try to talk to someone you trust. You need to get rid of these insecurities and self-blame game. Now, take charge of your happiness, and your mental PEACE. https://mmjdoctor.com/benefits-of-medical-marijuana-according-to-top-20-experts-in-the-industry/. Please never be disappointed and keep on fighting for your rights and mental strength Peace! 🙂

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The deeper answer to this question is to learn to enjoy your own company and to be content with it. It sometimes helps to remember, as a friend of mine once put it, “When you’re alone, at least you’re with a nice person!” https://esacare.com/emotional-support-animal-need-reasons/

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Isolation is something we find peace in. No we but some people like us. Though enjoy isolation but that is the reason of suffocation as well. Life is not always what we'd thought. Or planned. Or desired. It is totally unpredictable. You are happy with moments of joy and very sad the next. It is the actual balance between life. Solitude is a better choice. Don't lower your self for such people. The group of friends exists but they are not even loyal to each other. Friendships come with love,hate,anger,betrayal , jealousy and everything . As far as mental health is concerened I took medical marijuana for my depression, https://mdberry.com/12-leadingexperts-share-top-3-health-uses-of-medical-marijuana/. it helped me through my journey to recovery and have other health benefits too.

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Books have been a man's best friend. But now in this digital age, blogs can be man's best friend and some of these are really therapeutic to read here: https://mangoclinic.com/top-30-fantastic-blogs-that-will-help-you-heal-during-the-pandemic/ You can read first and start to write later too which is a productive and proactive attitude. You can distract yourself.

EvaWoods

Loneliness is a difficult problem for many people. The usual response to questions like this is the obvious one, “Make connections with more people and spend time with them.” But I think, for some people, this is a secondary solution. When we feel lonely, the inner sense of loneliness tends to come back as soon as we are alone again.
The deeper answer to this question is to learn to enjoy your own company and to be content with it. It sometimes helps to remember, as a friend of mine once put it, “When you’re alone, at least you’re with a nice person!”
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MelaniaTaylor

You don't have to read too much into it. It happens with some people probably because you might be an introvert and it may be difficult for you to open up to people. Start by talking to one person only and be friends with them. Try and open up to them slowly and speak about all that you have in mind, don't think about impressing anyone, people should like you for who you are. Meanwhile, to help you cope with a lack of friends, you should look to maybe get a pet or any animal that is able to comfort you emotionally. An animal like a dog can help you greatly https://esacare.com/emotional-support-animal-need-reasons/ they would keep you occupied and away from any negative thoughts while you make inroads into new friendships

trulyyours_Nadia01

I can totally understand and have gone through the same in my high-school. I had troubled mental health too due to constant bullying and mean behavior from my class fellows. I was the most heartbroken student, even talking to higher authorities and teachers didn't help me and they did nothing to fix the problem. This is where the problem comes from. I was never the favorite kid of any of the teachers either. They used to praise everyone else but me. I suffered from anxiety and chronic depression too. My parents helped me a lot and we tried every possible way to get healed and cured. I would suggest the same to you that please seek medical help and try to talk to someone you trust. You need to get rid of these insecurities and self-blame game. Now, take charge of your happiness, and your mental PEACE. Please never be disappointed and keep on fighting for your rights and mental strength Peace! https://mmjdoctor.com/top-40-authoritative-youtube-channels-on-medical-marijuana/

Referable

Untapped anxiety can leave us distressed and we feel like staying with the "white noise" .It is not healthy and not to be confused with depression. Long-standing anxiety can lead to depression and for your age, you certainly do not want it to happen : https://mangoclinic.com/anxiety-management-guide-2020/ . You can befriend BENZOS once in while, opt for ESA, take flavonoids and please work out #anxiety $health #love

trulyyours_Nadia01

I am so sorry you are suffering alone and you have no friends. Life is so difficult when you have no friends and have to live on your own. But you know what, if you try to use it with a positive outlook and I am sure you will be unbeatable. You need to find your solace in your loneliness and be your own friend, I am not suggesting that you should be always on your own and never talk to anyone else. It is not possible. But, when you are alone, try to be comfortable and enjoy your own company. If people who mingle with you well come into your life, accept and give your efforts to make that relationship work. Otherwise, you should be good on your own too. You should try this too, it will help you a lot https://mmjdoctor.com/5-inspiring-medical-marijuana-stories-from-real-life-patients/
Take care!